The Power of Single-Tasking
It takes only moments of focused attention to notice these “things,” to allow
us to hear what our children are saying and to gain a deeper understanding
into their lives. We pride ourselves at how efficient we are, multitasking all day
long; working on the computer while talking on the phone, listening to news
while cooking, preparing “to-do” lists in our heads while sitting at a meeting,
or anticipating today’s homework with Betty, while listening to her practice her
violin. We are always rushing into the future or dwelling in the past. We miss
the opportunity to be here now. We fail to notice what is going on with us and
our children, in the very moment. When we are with our children, let us be
fully with them; let us make every moment count.
Here is a specific example. While Betty is doing her homework, we are thinking
about her homework from yesterday or even the week before, or we are
focusing on that science project that took hours to complete earlier in the
month. Those hours are long gone and we need to remind ourselves that
Betty has learned something from her project, that she is older by a day or a
week, and “today” is another day, a different one - let us be here and now.
So what can parents do? We need to gain some control over our minds,
teach our minds to work for us, to listen to us. Small steps at first - dedicate
15, 10 or even 5 minutes at a time to focus and be fully present with your
children. No phone, no TV or computer, no cooking or cleaning.
excerpt from Lilipoh magazine Summer 2007 edition
Brought to us by Monika Fickewww.kelownawaldorfschool.com